Has Your Life Been Affected 
By Someone Else’s Drinking? 

Alateen Is For You! 

Alateen is for young people whose lives have 
been affected by someone else’s drinking. 
Sometimes, the active drinking has stopped, 
or the active drinker may not live with us 
anymore. Even though the alcohol may be 
gone, and the alcoholic gone or recovering in 
AA, we are still affected. Many of us have 
received help from Alateen or Al-Anon. The 
following twenty questions are to help you 
decide whether or not Alateen is for you. 

1. Do you believe no one could possibly 
understand how you feel? ______ 
2. Do you cover up your real feelings by 
pretending you don’t care? ______ 
3. Do you feel nobody really loves you or 
cares what happens to you? ______ 
4. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone 
else’s drinking or what’s happening in 
your home? ______ 
5. Do you stay out of the house as much as 
possible because you hate it there?______ 
6. Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring 
your friends home? ______ 
7. Has someone’s drinking upset you?______ 
8. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled 
because of drinking or others’ reactions 
to the drinking? ______ 
9. Are you afraid to speak up sometimes for 
fear it will set off a drinking bout or start 
another fight? ______ 
10. Do you think the drinker’s behavior is 
caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life? ______ 
11. Do you make threats such as, “If you 
don’t stop drinking and fighting, I’ll run 
away”? ______ 
12. Do you make promises about behavior, 
such as, “I’ll get better grades,” “go to 
church,” or “keep my room clean” in 
exchange for a promise that the drinking 
and fighting stop? ______ 
13. Do you feel that if your mom or dad 
loved you, she or he would stop drinking? 
14. Do you ever threaten or actually hurt 
yourself to scare your parents into saying 
“I’m sorry,” or “I love you”? ______ 
15. Do you or your family have money 
problems because of someone else’s 
drinking? ______ 
16. Are mealtimes frequently stressful or 
delayed because of drinking or fighting? 
17. Have you considered calling the police 
because of the abusive behavior in your 
home? ______ 
18. Have you refused dates because your date 
may find out about the drinking or 
fighting? ______ 
19. Do you think your problems would be 
solved if the drinking stopped? ______ 
20. Do you ever treat people (teachers, schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because 
you are angry at someone else for drinking 
too much? ______ 
If you have answered yes to any of these questions, Alateen may help you. You can contact Al-Anon or Alateen by looking in your 
local telephone directory or by writing to: 


Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 

1600 Corporate Landing Parkway 
Virginia Beach, VA 23454-5617 

Telephone: 757-563-1600 Fax: 757-563-1655
Web site: www.al-anon.alateen.org
E-mail: wso@al-anon.org


For meeting information call: 
1-888-425-2666 (1-888-4AL-ANON) 

(USA and Canada, Monday - Friday, 8 a.m. - 6 p.m. ET) 

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